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“Woe to them that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds! When the morning is light, they practise it, because it is in the power of their hand. And they covet fields, and take them by violence; and houses, and take them away: so they oppress a man and his house, even a man and his heritage. Therefore thus saith the LORD; Behold, against this family do I devise an evil, from which ye shall not remove your necks; neither shall ye go haughtily: for this time is evil. In that day shall one take up a parable against you, and lament with a doleful lamentation, and say, We be utterly spoiled: he hath changed the portion of my people: how hath he removed it from me! turning away he hath divided our fields. Therefore thou shalt have none that shall cast a cord by lot in the congregation of the LORD”
(Micah 2: 1-5).

What Sarah Gayman Wrote to Jerry Gentry
January 6, 2001

Dear Jerry Gentry,

I have been reading your postings on the www.dangayman.com web site as
well as the charming anecdotes you have e-mailed us. What an interesting
turn of events. It's clear to us that God is still trying to get Dan's

Jerry, Tim and I have been so blessed since we left Schell City and
completely become estranged from the Gayman family. Moving to the west
and completely away from their abusive and destructive behavior has been
the best thing in the world for our marriage.
Dan married us without my parent's approval on April 7th, 1984 when I was
17 years old and Tim was 19. In spite of, not because of Dan Gayman, we
are still married today, almost 17 years later. God has restored a
beautiful relationship with my parents and Tim. He has been so gracious
to us and our children.

I wanted to tell you about a couple of books that have really helped us
during our long and painful recovery. The first book I read in about
1996 called, "The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse" is authored by David
Johnson and Jeff Van Vonderen. The other book that I really liked is
"Churches that Abuse" by Ron Enroth. Not everything, but several things
will seem familiar to you and you will definitely be able to draw
parallels to your DanGayman and COI experience.

Regardless of what you have probably been told, we are not seeking to
destroy Dan Gayman or the Church of Israel. We would love to see him and
Deloris truly repent of their greed, selfishness and power-hungry ways.
When people have gods in their lives such as those, they will resort to
anything-even "cannibalizing" their own offspring and siblings such as
Dan Gayman has done. I am truly sorry for The Stinsons, but did they
ever wonder why two of Dan's brothers, his own son and four of his
grandchildren chose to disassociate from The COI? I'm sure everything
was neatly explained and blamed on "rebellious" and "demonic" daughter's
in law, etc. But believe me, there were compelling reasons behind all of
our departures. Your story and Scott and Lori Stinson's experiences are
oh, so familiar. There are literally hundreds of people who have been
taken advantage of by Dan Gayman. There are thousands he has lied to in
order to meet his own agenda. His wife learned early on how to enable him
in his ambitious ways and his children were trained from the very
beginning to be loyal to the death to their father.

The "Gayman Family, Inc" is all Dan is concerned about. Continuing to
amass a fortune and maintain control of his assets including the Church
of Israel and the people who worship and tithe there are his main goals
in life. He and Deloris have no fear of God, or they wouldn't blatantly
use tithe money for their own pleasure and purpose. The truth is Jerry,
my mother in law and father in law have a "power" marriage of
convenience. They are both driven by the desire for money, power,
position and prestige.

One incident I want to share with you took place when I was pregnant with
my second child, Jared, in 1988. Doug and Conny were moving out of what
was then called "The Randolph House". Tim and I were living in Belton,
MO and Dan and Deloris were trying very hard to persuade us to move back
down there. They had just spent an hour trying to convince me that it
was the right thing for us to do (even though Tim had a good job in
Kansas City and would be facing a four dollar an hour cut in pay if we
moved back). I was on the phone with Tim, informing him of Dan's wishes,
when Deloris said, "Dan, we HAVE to get Tim and Sarah into that house or
we are going to lose control of the house and all that land, and we
cannot let that happen"! This incident isn't very dramatic, but it is
just one small example in many hundreds that show the way they think
about things. To them, people are for personal use and possessions are to
love, not the other way around.

When Dan first meets a person, he is sizing him or her up, determining
how he can use that person for his personal gain. It might be a wealthy
business man that he is targeting. He smiles and flatters and agrees
with everything the man says. He will even change his theology if he
needs to in order to achieve his goal of conquering this man. This
becomes a driving force within Dan. This force takes on a life of its
own and he will not stop until the desired outcome is achieved. In the
case of the wealthy business man, his goal is to separate him from his
money, or as much of it as he can get. If he is pursuing an up and
coming pastor, it might be in order to entice more people to come to his
church and give him their tithe. Every single person who comes to the
COI is sized up and there is an intellectual and emotional inventory
taken of the person. After spending some time with his prey, he can
determine how and how easily his prey can be used and to what degree of

A person like this can only be completely devoid of the Holy Spirit. I
don't care how well he "Talks the Talk". The Bible says, "...by their
fruits ye shall know them". Look at Dan Gayman's fruits. I thank God
every day for picking my family up and bringing us out of Schell City,
Missouri. He has restored 10 times the years that the locusts destroyed.
It has not been always easy, but God knew that at the time. There were
times when Tim and I felt lost and alone. We got mixed up with some
controlling characters at first because that's what felt "normal" to us.
But we have found that God wants us to depend completely on Him and not
another human being for encouragement and direction. (By the way, Tim was
saved in a Baptist Church in Springfield, MO in 1995.)

I hope and pray that this situation turns out the way God wills it.

Please feel free to forward this letter on to Lori Stinson. I feel her
pain. I'm sure she feels like her world has come crashing down. I
remember the shock, disbelief and deep disappointment I felt as it dawned
on me just how far they would go to destroy me, or Conny or Tim or ANYONE
who they couldn't control. I know the feeling of isolation she has gone
through out there. "They" are too insecure to handle a beautiful girl
with a good figure in their midst. It's to Lori's credit that she was
able to handle it as long as she did. If there is anything I can do for
her, please let me know. Tim and I will be praying in the meantime.

Sarah Gayman

“And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of.
And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise of you” (II Peter 2:2-3).
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